Canady Chronicles: STUCK in love!

I  been reading. I  been reading. I don't know why but I just felt like saying that, plus its true. Anyway I was reading this book by one of my favorite people in the world Mindy Kaling. In the book she talks about how most movies, plays, etc end with marriage and happily ever after. Like the fun ends when the marriage starts. Who wants to see a movie about a marriage? Well if its as cool as mine is I'm going to raise my hand to the sky. I think its important to magnify how awesome being married is and how much better it is than dating *sticks out tongue*.

My husband is my best friend, not in the sense that I tell him everything (don't worry your secrets are safe with me) but in the way that I love hanging out with him above anyone else, and I think he's the funniest person I've ever met. We really have a good time and I'm not always dying for a girls night (although its due) or to get away from him in general. In fact as I sit here and type this, the man JUST sent me a snapchat of himself singing "All The Way Turned Up" in his car doing this weird janky move, and I love it.

Being married is not just about unprotected sex on call and having two incomes, both are extremely nice don't get me wrong but it gets better. Marriage, for me is about being able to wake up to his face each morning, the unsolicited butt grabs throughout the day, laying on his lap reading while he plays COD, knowing and being okay with this being the person that I'm going to sit on a porch with, old as hell, heckling young people. MY problems are now OUR problems and MY wins are now OUR wins, and vice versa.

We disagree, I pout, I make a big deal out of things that he thinks are silly, I get defensive, he shows no emotion, he takes everything for face value, I always dig for a deeper meaning...I mean these are the things we deal with, but none of the above listed outweighs the love and respect I have for our union. So while its hard to see why anyone gets married these days, remember that it's STILL the greatest thing on earth if you do it right.

RIP Maya Angelou

"Everything in the universe has a rhythm, everything dances"

For a woman who's words pretty much shaped my entire teenage years, I felt like it would be appropriate to give you guys some of my own. Don't judge me because I am EXTREMELY rusty, but its from the heart.

Lady, don't ever drop your crown.

When people challenge your motives or mock your efforts, never put your head down to weep.

Face the sun with your tears and push forward.

The world teaches us to hate what we are, and we allow it without even being aware.

Beware.

Everything that is portrayed in the media is not real. 

There are self respecting women left who believe in loving themselves like God loves them.

Sister, don't follow the masses, for where they're going they don't even know. 

Listen to your inner voice, do what makes you happy and what makes you feel like the Queen you are.

You deserve that title. 

You were born with that title.

Act the part.

~Keish~

Today we lost an iconic woman, a classic woman, a delightful woman, a joyful woman. I have never heard her speak in person (she was coming to KC in August I believe) but just reading her books, her poems, or seeing a quote or two slide across Pinterest made me feel like she was my own personal life coach. RIP May Angelou, you are royalty. 

#KCInStyle: Fashion Blogger

" A girl should be two things, who and what she wants" ~ Coco Chanel

Let me introduce you all to my friend in my head thedaileigh, I follow her on IG (thanks to Curly Kincy) and I think she is the dopest thing ever. Not only is she fierce honey, but she hosts these workshops that tell you how to shop, not to mention all the outfits that she puts together on her website she links exactly where you can find these pieces or at least something similar. I literally OD on that entire website so go ahead and indulge because I certainly have. Follow this beauty on IG @TheDaileigh 

Transformation Tuesday: Dress For Your Personality

"Creative people are rarely sex symbols Keisha"

Hi guys! A little late night posting never hurt anyone right? As you read in the title this late night blog is about fashion, but not in the way that you think. This post is about dressing for your personality. The quote you see above was told to me by my Wonder Twin once when we were discussing my style of dress. This was so on point and true when it comes to me.  I am unapologetically most comfortable in a cute t shirt some distressed jeans and some heels (I still enjoy my foot in a sexy shoe). You're not going to get much more from me unless I'm going somewhere fancy or if my husband insists, and even then I'm not va va voom sex kitten.

I like to believe that my brain is sexy, and my quirks are sexy, but having an actual sexy look I REALLY just don't think its in me, and I'm fine with that. Of course I see all these gorgeous girls with this perfect makeup and this perfect hair, and I think they are all dolls. Honestly though, the only thing I care about being perfect are my teeth (I obsess over teeth, hence the job title). I'm okay with "just being cute" that doesn't bother me at all, and in a room full of "bad b*tches" getting looked over has never been a problem for me.

So here's to us normal girls without all the whoop de doo and la di da, but we still manage to pull off a perfect mixture of cuteness and weirdness that some guys are lucky enough to experience! CHEERS!!!

(Picture above was taken by my husband on our 1 year anniversary and he picked out and purchased the entire outfit without my knowledge)

#KCInStyle: Hair Crush

Hi guys and dolls! So yes I took almost a week off and I'm not sorry, from being a cheer mom to making hard decisions I've been busy and I have not been on my game or had very many blog ideas that any of you would like reading about, but I'm back like I never left.

This week of course we have KCInStyle just like every week and this time it features MY HAIR CRUSH posh_syd. Her hair is amazing and her style is even more awesome but I thought it important to spotlight her hair today because I have made the decision to stop putting a relaxer on my hair. Its taken about a year for me to build up the nerve to try this and not give up, and this young lady (among others) keeps me pretty inspired. So follow her on IG and I'll talk to you guys soon!!! 

Oh btw any tips you have for going natural are SO welcome...

Transformation Tuseday: Inward

"You gotta go inward, to experience the outer space that was meant for you, you gotta go inward"

I have to be transparent with you guys, I was going to do a post about the importance of sunscreen for African American people but honestly that didn't move me. I made a vow when I started this blog that this would be for me. Of course I don't mind a few tips for my readers here and there but I don't want this to ever become about the amount of visitors I get to this site. KeishCan was started so that I can have an outlet for me. If you enjoy reading them that's just a bonus. This isn't to say I'll stop doing some of the posts I've been doing but I keep a really short leash (for lack of a better word) on myself when it comes to being who I truly am. You have no idea how easy it is for me to get flighty and concerned with so many things that don't really matter at all.

So in true back to me fashion I want to talk about loving yourself. I can talk for days about hair care products, and skin care products and all these things that are supposed to make you look however it is you want to look but in all honesty that comes from within. A bitter spirit cannot flourish no matter how much make up you put on it.

There are times when I let people upset me, and that's the first problem. The second is how much I can internalize that and how much it dims my light from within. There comes a time where we need to be able to shield ourselves from hate but be open to love. Its difficult to do both, trust me. Its an uphill battle but I think once you initially understand that YOU control how happy YOU are no one else can stop that.

Until next time...

#KCInStyle: DIY

First off let me start by SCREAMING... Happy Mothers Day to all the moms, grandmoms, aunts, sisters, and anyone else who may have stepped in as a mom at some point in your life. Thank you thank you thank you for all that you do!!!

This week belongs to ChrissiBeee. And yes she is from Kansas City, however she moved to Texas and all of a sudden has this awesome talent of salvaging things. I follow her on IG (you should too) for one she's an awesome mother and for two she makes cool stuff like this. I don't know where this talent came from, just a month ago we were watching Rehab Addict together (on twitter) and she was saying how she wants to do stuff like that. The above picture is a prime example of how if you say you want to do it you should JUST DO IT!!! Nike had it right. 

In case you haven't noticed every feature on KCInStyle inspires me. I think its cool will people are...cool. Anyway follow this doll on IG, and maybe she'll ship you something, okay I'm being ambitious, maybe you can PAY her to ship you something, although right now I think this is just a hobby. Sucks for me :( 

Being Mrs. Canady: Mothers Day Edition

Well Mother's Day is right around the corner and this will be the first mothers day that I will have my very own loving little family. Not to say celebrating Mothers Day being single is any less rewarding but this one just feels different, and makes me sort of joyful. In case you have NO idea about me(very possible, I mean who am I?) I recently got married on March 1st, I have one daughter and one bonus son (because I've never liked the way "step son" sounded) and of course a loving husband.

In the past two months I've experienced a lot of compromise, a lot of selflessness, and a lot of love. If you're married you know people ask you during the entire first month of the marriage "Do you feel any different?" my answer was always no because it was all a blur, all I knew is that I loved this man and he loved me and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him, thats what the first month was all about. Recently, however, a good friend of mine (Kylie Poo) asked me again, how is married life. I told her, with so much joy in my spirit

"Being married is like having a partner on a field trip that you know as long as that person is there holding your hand you're not lost, and if you ARE lost you're lost together trying to figure this thing out and that gives this inexplicable feeling of security"

That's what married life has been for me thus far. I have two wonderful children who I love with all my heart, a supportive husband that has my back in every situation. They provide a great support system. This mother's day will be full of joy, love, and laughter, even if they don't get me anything I'm just thanking God for the blessings he has bestowed upon my life.

Transformation Tuesday: Ride it, my pony.

Let me start off by saying I hate to sweat. Its true, I don't like it, I don't want any parts of it. I don't like it on me and I don't feel stronger because of it. However, I don't mind a little glow, or a moist sparkle. Now on to the point I'm supposed to be making...given all of those facts listed above I would do it for "the bike". 

A couple of weeks ago my husband and I hopped on a tandem* bike and I've been in love with the THOUGHT of it every since. So much so that I want to go out and find a bike, trick out my wheels and ride like the wind. The bike pictured above is a Fixed Gear bike also known as a "fixie" which means "better" and this particular one costs 429.00 per the site that I'm browsing. Four hundred and twenty nine dollars! And that's not even the most expensive one that I've seen. I'll keep doing research and check out a few other places before I commit, but I'm excited about this summer.

If you're interested in biking and live in the Kansas City Area you should Google "Critical Mass" its a monthly bike event that looks pretty cool. Hopefully you'll spot me at the next one. Until next time my hittas!

*A tandem bike is a couples bike and its as awesome to ride as it looks.

#KCInStyle: Watercolor

Happy Monday guys!!! Okay this weeks edition of #KCInStyle features MY favorite MimiG. Shes a blogger, mom, wife, and dope seamstress. She makes most of her own clothes and gives people like me (who have no idea even how to sew on a girl scout patch) hope. She has tons of tutorials on her site (www.mimigstyle.com) and she even sells some of the things that she makes.

I know you're probably asking yourself "Is she from KC?" Nope she's not, I guess I failed to mention that the KC in #KCInStyle could also just mean "Keish Can" lol. Don't worry fellow Missourians, I always look to give you guys props first, but when all else fails I look other places. Anyway, check this young lady out, she is awesome and has a great spirit. Until next time folks!!!