I'm No Revolutionary

In the wake of all that has happened within the past 72 hours it's easy to feel down to feel like the world is against us. Nothing anyone says at this moment will make an already divided race of people feel any solace., We're angry and we want justice, we want justice by further creating injustice, this doesn't seem like a solution to me.

I'm no revolutionary...

I know that we're tired of being ran over, treated like we are less than...to wake up and  look into the face of a world that seems to have no place for you, no place where you're actually wanted, just tolerated. Its...more than disheartening, all news is bad news.

I am not a revolutionary

Bad cops, drug dealers, rapists, government. A threat at every turn. Even when we're doing right we are questioned of our motives. They'd like to believe that there is no good in us, they'd like to make US believe that there is no good in us. 

I'm no revolutionary...but...

I feel them chuckling when we act just like they want us to. I see them saying "I told you I would break her, told you they're not a civilized people." Though they push us to sudden extremes, we feel rage, we feel anger, we feel hurt we feel sadness, we ARE fed up. 

I have never been a part of "The Revolution"

But this is not how I imagined it. I imagined it being well thought out, well planned and well led. We are an emotional group of people, but I would like to believe that our logic outweighs our need to show brute force. The news doesn't show us at peace, they don't show us being non-violent, they don't show us trying to make it in a world full of vultures where no matter where you go you have to keep in the back of your mind the fact that this person might hate me just because.....

R-E-V-O-L-U......

Its hard, because even in this we are divided! Even in this you have people saying that our brand of revenge was ill planned, and others who think that burning down a gas station was the start of something great. We have some who want others to ignore Robin Williams being dead and to save our RIP's and our prayers for Mike Brown...thats not how praying works...just an FYI

T-I-O-N

We CANNOT band together when we are a race that is so fucking far apart. We divide ourselves on everything. Natural vs. Relaxed. Light vs. Dark. The list goes on but I have other races that read my blog and honestly it is too embarrassing to even go any further with that.

I'm black, and I'm proud to be black and there is no other race I'd rather be, but I'm no revolutionary, not in a field of chaos and anger. All we're doing is yelling at a wall expecting it to crumble by the mere sound of our angry voices. Until we take the time to settle down and formulate some type of solution. Until we stop treating these deaths like a bit of pop culture that we are over once the new Jordan's come out....until then all we will ever be is an angry mob of people.

*heavy sigh* I'm done.

Cut this shit out.

Role Model?

I know that eventually people become role models, for their children, siblings, and other family members, but imagine being that for someone you don't even know...a role model. Its a weird feeling right? Being careful of the things that you do and say, watching how you dress, no pictures with liquor...or no liquor at all, ceasing foul language, walking with your back straight. A rather daunting task if I do say so myself. You guys that know me, know that in normal situations I would never sign up to be ANYONE'S role model. Three years or so ago I could not have been my OWN role model truth be told. 

Isn't it crazy how God forces you into things you never thought you'd actually be apart of? One morning, or one night in the shower all of these ideas hit you, and you refuse to act on them because the time doesn't seem right, but honestly there is no better time. You're thinking "well first I need to get myself together", "I have a few more things that I need to do before I can put 100% into this idea", "maybe its an idea and nothing more." All of these statements are what I like to call show stoppers. We convince ourselves that we aren't ready or that we aren't good enough, only to be forced into these roles anyway, rather we want to be there or not its kind of funny.

For almost two years I have been absolutely curving the idea of this and I still haven't totally accepted this. I'm not ready to grow up, I want to remain a 30 year old child, apparently it's impossible to do so and some of my adult roles have completely grown on me, and I love them. So here's to the start of "Little Girls Big Dreams" I even have a mission statement.

To help young girls realize and pursue their dreams, all while empowering them to believe in themselves and their abilities.

Bear with me as this is a huge work in progress and honestly one of many ventures that have piqued my interest, but I figure if I've been having this same idea for the past two years and haven't worked towards it at all, then it must mean something. This is going to SERIOUSLY test me. Y'all. I suck at planning things, I can't even show up to some things let alone be on time so this entire thing is as surprising to me as it is to some of the people I've told, if not more! Pray my strength as I embark on this journey.

Ciao

#SelfLoveSaturday (On Tuesday)

This weeks message is about betting on yourself!

This is a pretty big deal when it comes to my life. There have been times when I let people convince me that I am unable to do some things so I just don't do it. Don't let other people project their fears onto you, it's not fair to let that into your space.. Never be afraid to stretch yourself beyond your comfort zone. You are never too old, young, fat, skinny, smart, dumb, etc. to fulfill your purpose. It took me awhile to accept this and I am still accepting this and it is an awesome journey knowing that I can do anything that I put my mind to as long as I don't let my own negative thoughts or anyone else's sneak into my life.

I hope this short video inspires you the way it inspired me.

New Project Coming Soon!!!

Canady Chronicles: "So how's the married life?"

Good morning boys and girls!

I was able to step away from the Kim Kardashian game and actually get some family time in. That game is beyond addictive and I've always considered myself lucky to have never gotten sucked into the Kardashian empire but this game just keeps calling me. On to the blog post...

Growing up as a child I never had the big family dinners, or a dad that sat at the head of the table getting the big piece of chicken. For the first 10 years of my life it was just Rita and me. She was who I depended on for everything, I really had no one to reach out to emotionally besides her and imaginary friends. I know that sounds sad but its not. The crazy thing about living in your own world is that you don't know anything is wrong with it until someone points it out. No one ever pointed it out for me, so I was happy, for the most part. However, sitting down watching shows like the Cosby's made me long for my own huge black successful family. So much so that I said "That's going to be me when I grow up". Decent kids, good family values, and enough love to spare.

Sometimes life gets hard, and it is surprisingly nothing at all like a sitcom (who knew?). Real life things happen that hinder your dreams, and though a lot of things I longed for as a child have gone out the window, one thing remained the same, family.  I love the people you see in the picture above, they are my everything, they are what I didn't have as a child, they are my peace when the world seems at war with me. I don't miss the clubs, I don't miss the dating scene, I don't miss being single. I wouldn't trade the feeling they give me for the world.

So, not that I mind it (3 of my friends asked me this question this weekend lol), but this is for all those people who inquire about how "married life" is. These are all the things I want to say but can't fit into a conversation that I'm having in passing so I just have to say its great, but that doesn't at all sum up my feelings about it. In fact the next time someone asks me this I will just refer them to the blog!!!!

Have a good one folks!

#SelfLove: Don't Compare Yourself to Others.

Hi boys and girls!!!

So I've been on this "kick" a self love "kick". Each and every Saturday my friend (in my head) Andrea Lewis, posts videos about loving yourself and they honestly just bring me joy. They give me what I need for the week. I thought that it would be nice to share.

This weeks video is about not comparing yourself to other people. She mentions social media, and other things that make us envious of people that we don't even know. When someone is posting on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, etc etc. We usually post the best things about our life. So don't let that make you wish for someone else's life, almost no one posts the bad days!!!

Check the video out below:

Ciao!

30 Days of Yoga

Simple peaceful yoga poses. 

I will do these poses everyday starting this evening. After searching all over for an inexpensive yoga class, I decided that I'm a pretty great DIYer (when it comes to working out, don't mistake this for me saying that I'm crafty in the least) and I can do this without any instruction whatsoever. A self taught yogi, I am. Speak like Yoda, I do. Anyway I thought I'd share the sequence that I'm doing. Perhaps you guys will join!!! 

Happy Wednesday!

Transformation Tuesday: Oil Cleansing Method c/o HeyFranHey

Hi guys! I hope everyone had a well rested weekend!!! Okay lets get started, yes pictured on the left is oil and yes I'm telling you to clean your face with it. I just stumbled upon this because of my new obsession with heyfranhey (just type that name in Google, she's pretty much everywhere you can imagine). 

I really don't know what has happened to me but lately I've been into growing out my relaxed strands, attempting yoga, watching what I eat, and just overall being as healthy as possible. 

Introducing the oil cleansing method, who knew you could clean your face with oil? Well apparently it is possible and I am excited to try it out. I don't have problem skin per se, but I do have a few little friends that pop up here and there and a set of blemishes near my jaw that I absolutely hate. Other than that I don't have many complaints. I'm really trying this because sometimes after washing my face I feel the need to cover my face in cocoa butter because it feels so dry. I really hate that "if I smile too hard I'm going to crack wide open" feeling so I thought that this was worth a try. Below I've posted a YouTube video of how it works, and it also includes the oils that you can use depending on your skin. 

I won't start this routine up until this coming Friday, from there I'll give it awhile before I report back on what it has done or hasn't done for me. I'm just willing to try it because I've been researching and I honestly only see good outcomes.